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Proactive vs. Reactive Parenting?🤔⁣

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐯𝐬. 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠? 🤔⁣

𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 “𝘧𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱” 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥’𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳. ⁣

Reactive parents yell, scream and hit haphazardly when they have “had enough.” But this parenting style will backfire on you, because reactive parents always feel fed up with their child’s behavior. Instead of enjoying your children, a reactive parent is actively looking for their child’s next rule violation.⁣

𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸-𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩. ⁣

As proactive parents, moms and dads must decide what the rules are and what the consequences will be for breaking those rules. Consistency and self control are the two keys that work hand in hand to correctly disciple and lead our children. Remember, if we are inconsistent, we will overreact when we’ve had enough of the bad behavior.⁣

We know proactive parenting may seem like hard work, but it will always pay off. You child will learn to choose the right thing because you have guided them in forming the correct habits and attitudes.⁣

Don’t “react” to your child’s behavior. Provide a calm example and consistent guidelines. No matter how much effort this seems to take at first, later childhood discipline will be much easier and your child will learn to do the right thing calmly in the face of frustration.⁣

Do you think you’re more of a reactive or proactive parent?👇 Honest answers only. 👀

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