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Today’s Tip

Parents, if we are being honest with ourselves, we canโ€™t control our children. ๐˜–๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ง๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ.โฃ
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When we try to control our kids, we take away their autonomy. When they are away from us, it’s rare that they actually do what we want them to do. They do what they want to do regardless, if it’s good for them or not. They just want the freedom to make their own choices for once. โฃ
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But when we influence them by teaching, training, and being good role models, they internalize and maintain their autonomy and do what they feel is right. And itโ€™s based on what we’ve taught them – ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต.โฃ
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It might be hard sometimes, especially as our children grow older, but we need to trust that we have taught them well. Save this post for later when you need the reminder that youโ€™re doing a good job. ๐Ÿ’™

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