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Scared Straight

When I first started The Cave of Adullam there were many “Scared Straight” programs in Michigan, I even participated in a couple. However, I quickly discovered that inflicting trauma will never help a boy release it but instead teach him to suppress it. Nowadays you’ll be hard pressed to find a scared straight program because discipline without love is ineffectual!

Teaching Kids To Count Is Fine, But Teaching Them What Counts Is Best

September 28, 2022

“𝘛𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵.”⁣ ⁣ Parents, our children get more from us than just our genetics! They get their values and priorities, which are taught from us. ⁣ ⁣ We have to show them what to…

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“Humans Are Wired To Connect So When We Feel Disconnected, We Turn To Food, Technology And Substances” -Ali Mattu PHD.

September 27, 2022

Parents, it’s obvious that staying connected with your kids is important. Having a healthy relationship, a strong line of communication, we’ve discussed it all! ⁣ ⁣ But HOW to stay connected is the tricky part. So, here are some simple, but effective, ways to stay…

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Happy First Day of Fall! ⁣

September 23, 2022

Happy first day of fall! 🍂⁣ ⁣ Looking for some family activities to do this fall season, while still keeping it fun for your teens? We’ve got you covered!👇⁣ ⁣ 🔹 𝐏𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧 𝐏𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐬 & 𝐂𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐌𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 – We know, those types of places might seem…

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#ParentingTipTuesday

September 21, 2022

Parents! Here’s a quick #ParentingTipTuesday 💡 for all of us who have teens, especially now that school is back in session. ⁣ ⁣ 𝘛𝘦𝘦𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘢 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘺. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘢𝘴…

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Speak Blessings And Life Into Your Children Always

September 20, 2022

“𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘴, 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘯.”⁣ ⁣ Parents, we have had many conversations about how you are your child’s biggest influence. The way you talk, how you act – to them and…

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Dads Never Make Sense

September 17, 2022

Parents, when it comes to disciplining your teen…you want to stay away from nagging and lecturing. 👀 Most parents tend to communicate through repetition, which is needed before the teenage years. BUT, what was once an effort to help them through multiple reminders, now irritates…

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5 Tips To Help Your Teen Deal With Anxiety

September 16, 2022

Parents! As we are now a couple weeks into the school year, have you noticed your young one still suffering from anxiety? Whether it’s social anxiety or nerves about being back in school during the pandemic, we understand the struggle! ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ 𝗪𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨…

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Three “A’s”. 𝐀𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐀𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐀𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭. ⁣

September 14, 2022

Parents! Self-esteem is more than just how you feel about yourself. It’s also about how capable you are to meet life’s challenges and feel worthy of your own happiness!⁣ ⁣ You can build self-esteem in your child by developing three “A’s”. 𝐀𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐀𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐀𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.…

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The S.W.A.G Program Is Our Flagship Program

September 13, 2022

Parents! As fall is almost upon us, that means S.W.A.G is back! 🙌 ⁣ ⁣ 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘚.𝘞.𝘈.𝘎 (𝘚𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘞𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘈𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 & 𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴) 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘭𝘢𝘨𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝟷,𝟶𝟶𝟶 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘔𝘦𝘵𝘳𝘰 𝘋𝘦𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘢 𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺. ⁣ ⁣ In…

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Are You Experiencing Emotions As A Parent?

September 9, 2022

Parents! Did you know…?⁣⁣ 🤔 ⁣⁣ 🔹As a parent, it’s normal to feel a sense of grief as your child grows up. Gone are the days when they depended on you and soon, they’ll be out on their own.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 🔹Even as adults, we have…

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How You Respond, Speak, And Treat Them A long Lasting Impact On Who They Will Become!

September 7, 2022

Parents, what our children think of themselves is strongly influenced by how they think their parents view them! ⁣ 🗣 Your voice, whether gentle and kind, empathic and warm, or strident and harsh, becomes a big part of their inner voice. ⁣ ⁣ 🧠 They…

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FREE Trauma Informed Parenting Session

September 3, 2022

If you know, you know. 🤣 Parents, we know trauma comes in all shapes and sizes. But we’re going to buy the cookies! 👏 That’s right! There’s going to be cookies inside our tin! Not barrettes, sewing supplies, random screws, or random batteries we took…

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5 Tips To Help Your Teens Cope With Stress!

September 2, 2022

𝟓 𝐓𝐈𝐏𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐇𝐄𝐋𝐏 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐓𝐄𝐄𝐍𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐏𝐄 𝗪𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐒𝐓𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐒!⁣ ⁣ Now that school is back in session, all the academic responsibilities, sports, hobbies, and other commitments come along with it. Which can make for a very stressed out teenager. 😅 So! Here are some ways…

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No More “Fight or Flight” Parenting

August 31, 2022

Parents…it’s time to communicate. 𝐍𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 “𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐫 𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭” 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. 🚫 ⁣ Effective communication is when the person sending a message makes it clear and easy to understand, and the person receiving understands the message as the sender intended. In the real world, especially in…

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The Golden Rule of Parenting

August 30, 2022

✨ The Golden Rule of Parenting is: Do unto your children as you wish your parents had done unto you. ✨ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 🔹 Easier said than done, right? Who else remembers being a kid or even a young adult pre-children and thinking, “𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭…

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Some Effective Discipline Strategies For Teens

August 27, 2022

Parents, I know a lot of us can relate to this video. 👀🤣⁣ ⁣ Not everyone agrees with spanking their children, for good reason, but we know it could’ve taken place in our homes growing up – and there’s a chance we also adopted these…

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