THE POWER OF A FATHER’S PRESENCE

In Chapter 5 of #CryLikeAMan “The Absence of Affirmation, I share how my father rarely attended my football games—and of all the games for him to attend, it had to be the one when I dropped the game winning touchdown.
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“I heard you dropped a touchdown pass” was the first thing out of his mouth. Not “Great catch in the first quarter” or “That block on fifty-seven was legit!” Just the same predictable negativity that refused to see the good in me. Would you believe it took nearly three decades for the Most High to expose what my dad really said?
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“I HEARD …”
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He didn’t even see the play because he wasn’t there. He showed up at the end of the game. He didn’t witness anything I did—good or bad. The speed I used to outpace the DB. Nothing. Just a handful of corrosive words hitting me like acid. Sitting here in my office so many years later, I finally realized what he actually meant. And when I did, all I could do was put my head on my desk and cry. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Father’s—just because you’re not in your son’s home, doesn’t mean you can’t be in his life! Please learn how to ‪#CryLikeAMan‬ so that you can release the toxic emotions and trauma preventing you from being the father he needs.

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